I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately about how mainstream society treats those of us who are not neurotypical. It varies of course; condescending pity, genuine but misguided desire to help by doing things for us, assuming we aren’t capable of doing jobs simply due to the wiring of our minds, and so on. The one certain thing about all of it though, is that our modern world just doesn’t seem to know what to do with those of us who are different. It almost seems to baffle them that we exist at all! We’ve only very recently come to terms with the fact that it is perfectly okay for humans to have different skin colour, hair colour, eye colour, handedness, physical builds and many other variations, yet we still don’t understand that the same kind of diversity exists within the human brain itself. If we did, autism ‘treatments’ wouldn’t strive to normalize those on the spectrum nearly as much.
I know this is an old rant, and that I’ve had it countless times before, but I’ve had it driven home for me recently just how little people really know about autism, ADHD and a plethora of other conditions beyond the stereotypical propaganda. In my own experience, it has not been uncommon to find myself talking with someone at work or out in public whose heart is in the best of places but who also makes certain untrue and unfair assumptions about those who are neurodivergent. “Oh he socializes really well for someone with autism!” they might say, or “well you know, she can’t sit still because she has ADHD.” The crushing thing about such statements is that, while there is always an element of truth, they are overly simplistic and don’t give enough agency to the person they’re referring to. Not only that, but even more damning is that most people can’t help but have these assumptions because it’s the only side of this discussion they’ve been exposed to. Autism Speaks and a plethora of other organizations are to blame for that.
So how do we fight back against this rising tide of unintentional ignorance? Speak out, inform, educate. I’ve said it before, but for those of us fighting this battle, assuming that others should do their homework and inform themselves is a luxury we cannot afford to have. We need to be out there, talking about our own experiences as neurodivergent people, normalizing the existence of diverse permutations of human grey matter, and all around making it be okay for people to be true to who they are. I understand this isn’t always easy; some employers may not understand, nor might some close friends. Standing up might be difficult, but I would argue that if things weren’t worth doing they wouldn’t be a challenge. Only by doing this can we receive the assistance we need, while respecting our right to exist as people. In short, the only way to achieve the shift in public consciousness we seek is to lead by example and show people the way. They need us to SHOW them what to do with us...and that is to love and accept us for being exactly as we’re supposed to be.
After all, it was Mohandas Ghandi who said we “must be the change we wish to see in the world.”
As always, yours in diversity.